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Does any of this sound familiar?

● “I feel guilty that I got a promotion and my co-worker did not.”
● “I feel guilty when I take a sick day, even though I am really sick.”
● “I feel guilty when I leave the kids to go out with friends.”

When someone tells me they feel guilty over this some thought or deed, I ask “What offense or wrong did you commit?” The response if often, “I am not sure.”

In today’s society, we often feel guilty for taking action or thinking thoughts when no guilt is necessary.

I created my Emotion Chef framework after becoming acutely aware of how impactful the nuances of emotion words are on physical and mental health. We often inaccurately apply emotion words in our self-talk and daily language. There are so many emotions, but many people experience a limited few.

Why does it matter?

Our emotional responses are assigned to a label by our brain, such as “guilt”.
When you consider that emotions drive thoughts, and thoughts drive emotions, but it is our emotions that drive behaviors and actions, it’s hard to ignore the importance of expressing accurate emotions in our communications and daily life.
By definition, guilt is the fact of having committed a specified or implied offense or crime.
In psychology, the term guilt refers to an emotion where an individual feels responsible for some action or inaction that is PERCEIVED as having negative results.

Guilt creates self-critical thoughts, which make it difficult to think clearly; creating stressful resentments and self-punishing behavior.
Just because you feel bad after doing something or saying something doesn’t make you guilty. Sometimes the tough actions are the right actions.

When you are feeling guilty, ask yourself, “Have I done something for which I need to apologize or compensate?” Or, “Are there actions or behaviors that I need to change?”

If the answer to the question no, look at the situation from another perspective. Change your self-talk. Select another word to describe your feeling that is more appropriate.

If the answer is affirmative, then take the redeeming course you need in order to relieve the emotion. Apologize or take whatever you action to compensate for your guilt, then move on.

Guilt is your past keeping you from moving forward in the future.

Given all of the negative byproduct the emotion of guilt can have on both you and those around you, I recommend you apply this emotion wisely.

I’m Kim Korte, Emotion Culturist and developer of The Emotion Chef framework.

If you are interested in developing this EI skill for yourself or within your organization, visit kimkorte.com

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